Question of the day?

I must say it was a busy day. Problem after problem at work today. One person wants to argue about everything and the other wants to blame someone else for everything. I was told the one is dealing with some outside issues. I want to feel for them, but aren't we all dealing?

I have been doing a new study. One of the questions was... what inanimate object best describes your life? I have thought and thought about this question.

Give me your thoughts on what object describes your life. Leave it under comments.

I thought about and tire on a car because I am always on the go. I also thought about an iphone because I am always multi-tasking and have so much to do. I will give it some more thought and post what I think describes my life.

Not a Tantrum

After reading the comments to my post "Bread not Stones" I realized the prayer at the end was misunderstood. I feel like I need to clarify that I was not having a NOW moment with God demanding my way when I asked him to sell this house. I was only making my request known as the word says to ask. I was thanking him because I want him to be aware I am thankful. I do not for one single minute want to be ahead of God. I do not want this house to sell prior to his timing. I want to be in the center of his will. I have been thinking a lot about the "timing" of not selling this house.

1-I can not imagine trying to move in the middle of my dad's illness and death.

2- Nor can I imagine trying to move during the holidays and my gall bladder surgery.

3- It was completely necessary for Biz to have Mrs. Penny this year in school. God worked some great things in her because of her trials with the other teachers who referred to her as "snotty". She and Mrs. Penny have a great re-pore and she needed to grow under Mrs. Penny's loving acceptance of her reserved personality and not be misunderstood as snotty. Biz also was not given the chance to join the "academically gifted program" under any other teacher in spite of her great scores. Wow! What a great year for Biz that would have been missed had our house sold and she had to attend another school.

Those are only three of the many reasons I know there are! I know when the house sells we will see God's complete wisdom in his timing. I do not doubt for one solitary minute that God is OMNIPOTENT! Yes, I am frustrated because the negative talk about our community. On all the feedback the house is always seen as "clean and well kept in a bad neighborhood". I know I can not change the neighborhood so I get frustrated because I can't be my MARTHA self and fix it. However, I know God can overcome!

16 years later

Sixteen years and two children after the "I do". Where have the years gone? Our marriage fits like an old comfy shoe. We are just comfortable. Thursday evening Joel was in a foul mood so I just avoided him and went to bed. Fourteen years ago it would have been a fight. Maturity is amazing. Not that I am always able to act so. I would have taken his mood personally, now I just let him have his mood. I know he does the same for me. I guess that is why I think of this marriage as a comfy shoe.

A dear friend offered to keep the kids, but we had a baseball game and by the end of the game we knew Khi was not feeling well. I think he has a sinus infection. We had initially set up a sitter to go on a date, but... life with kids happened. We ended up doing nothing for our anniversary. Khi has just needed to be home resting.

I shopped with Sonderella and the girls. That was fun. I always enjoy spending time together.

I watch my kids grow. It makes me a little sad. My Biz is turing into a young lady. I didn't expect it so soon. We are seeing signs of puberty... full fledged puberty! Wow, already.

Lord, help me to stay focused on the important things in life. Help me to trust in you and wait on you.

Amen

Bread not stones

Luke 11:11-13 If a son shall ask bread of any of you that is a father, will he give him a stone? or if he ask a fish, will he for a fish give him a serpent? Or if he shall ask an egg, will he offer him a scorpion? If ye then, being evil, know how to give good gifts unto your children: how much more shall your heavenly Father give the Holy Spirit to those who ask him?

Okay, I admit I have not used the scripture correctly. I have been praying for our house to sell for 2 years. We had the house on the market for a year with an agent and the year prior to that we were "for sell by owner". I have prayed without ceasing at times. I have asked God what lesson I need to learn? I have said God will sell the house in his time. If patience is the lesson...I told God this week....I AM NOT GETTING IT! I do not mean to taunt God by any means. I am so frustrated with this house. I think I have done all I can to sell this house. I have packed at least 30 boxes. Some of those boxes have been stored for a year. We are constantly having to keep the house spotless....for a year (with two kids 7 to 9)! I am worn out. I think some of my frustration and inability to deal any longer is because of all the other "stuff" going on. I feel like such a spoiled brat kid....telling God I have been given stones instead of bread. Wonder where my kids get their attitudes? Hmmmmmm?

1 Peter 4:1

Therefore, since Christ suffered in his body, arm yourselves also with the same attitude, because he who has suffered in his body is done with sin.

Bottom line...I can't do anything...only God can. I have to STOP and allow him to sell this house.

Lord,

Help me have a right attitude. Help me to rest in you and allow you to be in control. Help me to learn the lessons I need to learn. Please sell this house. I thank you in advance for selling this house in such a bad time with the market. I ask you to help me not to look at the market, but look to you. I ask you to close my ears to negative talk and only to speak positive.

Amen

Apathetic

Let's start with the definition....courtesy of dictionary.com

-Feeling or showing a lack of interest or concern; indifferent.
-Feeling or showing little or no emotion; unresponsive.

If you are one of my students....please know I am human.

I received my course evaluations this week for clinic....now I am dreading receiving my lecture course evaluations! I expected them to be less than positive. I even told the department head they would be in March when I missed a day of work to help my dad get ready to go back to WV. Boy was I right!

My clinic faculty evaluation was very positive!

But.....

My coordinator evaluation was not terrible, but the comments were harsh. I would have thought the students would have been able to see how much I had going on personally and have been compassionate. But they were apathetic to the fact my father was gravely ill and ultimately died! I was written up for being apathetic toward the problems in clinic. I am not sure that was a fair assessment of my attitude. I can understand a little I suppose because when my dad was dying the fact that they can't find a patient really doesn't seem as tragic! I wonder if they could lose the self-centeredness long enough to see the difference in the two situations? Obviously not since the comment was made. Now let me say it wasn't all of the students just a few.

Another comment was about my wanting them to like me personally. Let me say it is our HUMAN nature to want to be liked, but in no way did I try to be their friend. I did not go to lunch with them or call them on the phone. I might have asked them if they had a nice weekend or break, but I would think they would have liked me to be kind. If I had not been personable I would have been written up for not caring even more!

I was also written up because the other faculty do not know the clinic manual or protocol. That I need to make the other faculty be as fair as I am....HOW?????? I can not MAKE the other faculty do anything! I am not their boss! This is one of my frustrations with being the coordinator. The students expect me to control other people and I can't! Sometimes I have as many as 32 other people to "control"! IMPOSSIBLE!

Now don't get me wrong I like my job, but society has raised a group of individuals who think the world revolve around them and every year the students coming in are more and more harsh and self-centered. I have found if I don't do everything they suggest I am unapproachable! What happened to training a professional? I am not conceited but I do have a lot of knowledge....I have worked in the field of dentistry for 22 years! Doesn't that mean anything?

Just venting! :o)

Next week I will go back to work with a smile and cater to the students needs just to be written up again for being apathetic!

Windows

Windows. Windows are an openings in a solid wall. The opening allows things to pass through or peer into. Things that pass through might be a cool breeze on a warm sunny day. That is a wonderful thought. Something else that might pass through could be a baseball that has ricocheted from the baseball bat of a group of boys playing a game in the back yard on a hot summer day! I like both of those thoughts. They bring a smile to my face. What about peer into? What comes to mind? Welllllllll, I think of a peeping Tom (sorry if your name is Tom)! HEHEHE....he would run if he peered through my window! It allows the sun to peer through into a dark room. It allows people to peer inside.

Why am I writing about windows? Well, I received a card today from a dear friend. She was encouraging me to continue to blog. Is the timing coincidental? My last blog entry talked about how vulnerable I feel by sharing on my blog. My friend told me "it's like having a little window into your life that I can look through at any time." That really touched me! She cares enough to want to peer into my little window. It is nice to know people really do care and someone wants to see into me. This blog is a window to my soul. My thoughts. Some of them intimate! Some of them hard to admit...let alone to share. I do not think the timing is a coincidence!

I want this blog to be encouraging, uplifting, funny and thought provoking. I am not sure it is all of those things every time I write, but it is a place for me to be me. Sometimes it is hard to just be true to me.

As I reflect on this year so far it has had it's challenges, but it has also had it's blessings. My family will share blessings and challenges of the day sometimes. I think it is good to have balance. We should not always dwell on the challenges in our lives but also on our blessings. One of my dad's sayings is..."Count your blessings and you will forget about your troubles". Each day we pray with our children at least twice a day. We start by thanking God! And we end by asking God to "keep us happy, healthy and safe in Jesus name."

Philippians 4:6-7

Do not be anxious about anything, but in everything by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving present your request to God. And the peace of God which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and minds in Christ Jesus.

I want my children to be "Thankful" and always "praise" the Lord! It is my responsibility to teach them these things! We teach by example. I want to set a good example for my children.

Lord,

Help me to be a Godly example for my children, students, co-workers and friends. Not for my glory, but Lord for your glory only! Help me to keep my eyes fixed on you and to count my blessings. Help me to be found praising you always!

Amen

Vulnerable

This is a crawdad I caught several years ago in the creek (pronounced "crick" in WV) across the road from my parents house. When I look at the vulnerability of this creature it reminds me of how I feel right now.

According to one of my favorite sites (dictionary.com) the definition of vulnerable is......

Susceptible to physical or emotional injury. (me)
Susceptible to attack: "We are vulnerable both by water and land, without either fleet or army" (Alexander Hamilton).
Open to censure or criticism; assailable.
Liable to succumb, as to persuasion or temptation.

I feel very vulnerable right now. My emotions still feel very raw. When an acquaintance asks how I am: I am not sure how to answer. I want to say all is well. But....I'm not sure I am there yet. I am still grieving. I go to a church of approximately 1000 people. So many who ask how I am, do not even know my father has died.

I think my blog makes me vulnerable too. (Thanks for the few comments I received!) I want to be transparent but I'm a little afraid to express how I am feeling. Our youth pastor told me today not to be too hard on myself and allow myself to have this time to grieve. I am such a perfectionist I am having trouble with allowing myself the "freedom to grieve".

I miscarried our first child. It was one of the most difficult losses I have ever felt. When I miscarried, I lost the hope and dreams of having a family. I must say that loss pales in comparison to the death of my dad. During that loss I read a great book called "Free to Grieve" and it brought so much healing to me. I guess I just want that quick healing again. Of course, you know my husband and I have since been blessed with two beautiful children. Now don't get me wrong my two children did not replace my first child, but they helped me achieve my dream of having a family. Nothing can bring my dad back. There is such a huge void.

I went back home last week. It was very difficult. I am so torn. I want to be available for my mom, but have difficulty being there and here. My daughter has missed me over the last two months. I have been gone so much to be with my mom and dad. I have been away 3 weeks. At least One in Mid-March, One in April and One in early May. I miss my daughter too. I wished I could be in both places.

My children were in a play at church. Biz was a narrator and Khi was Go-fish. The play was about David and Goliath. I realized as I watched them yesterday and tonight that I had not helped them with a single line for the play. They are great kids and did a great job, but I felt guilty for not being available to them over the last few weeks.

What is the GIANT in my life right now? Grieving and Healing! I know I can overcome this giant in my life with the help of the Lord.

Philippians 4:13

I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me.

P.S. Pastor Cross...I can't say Thank You enough. I appreciate you! I pray for you as you go through your own grieving!